Curious, is it not?

Curious, is it not?

Family is that crazy thing that we all have mixed feelings about.

From my posts, you'd think I have no issues with any of my family, or that we all love each other just because we are amaze balls.

Cute. Real cute.

Gracious, some days I hate my family. Just recently, I contemplated hitting my grandma with a shovel.

What stopped me?

Life in prison.

Just kidding! I love my grandma, and while at the moment she was driving me batty, I would never do that. Also, nobody else is ever allowed to feel that way, because I'll kill them.

Know the feeling?

There are all sorts of statistics that say "Oh, if you sit down with your family, life gets better." No really, it's a thing. Okay, maybe I paraphrased and shortened it a bit but it's there.(http://dinnertrade.com/568/interesting-statistics-on-family-dinners)

Us teenagers are like "Oh please, we don't need conversation with them. It's hard enough to live with them!" Yeah, it's true. Of course, then we have the fact that it really is better. When you understand and talk to your parents, there seems to be way more peace throughout the home.

I am speaking through experience. Crazy, I know. Nah, not really. I'm getting off topic. Anyway,  me and my father don't always get along. Actually, that's an understatement, since he is one of the hardest people to live with. Oh, you think I'm exaggerating? I'm not. Anyway, I try to engage in conversation with him every so often because it seems to keep the peace. It makes him less cranky, and me slightly less annoyed. Not only that, but then the whole house is free again, not just sectioned spots for the each of us!

I'm not completely sure where I'm going with all of this. I think I've covered love, family, dinner, teenagers and all that fun stuff, so I'm just going to leave you to it! Thank you for reading, thank you for thinking and stay curious!

Curiously, Fyredancer911

Ohana means family

What gives?

I mean,

that's family.

Want to know how we are all so close? 

We did things together. We lived in the middle of nowhere and used.... wait for it.... our imagination!

My family means a lot to me, and I think it should to everyone. Family is who is behind you nearly every step of the way, they encourage you, they love you and they help you up when you fall.

Shouldn't everyone value that?

So I really do think that everyone should do things, be a family, make strong relationships because in the end, you are better off for it. 

So, since this was just a little post, I think the next one is going to be my big finale. Thanks for reading guys! Stay tuned!

Curiously, Fyredancer911

Expect That!

Expectations.

God, those suck, don't they?

Parents, they just sometimes expect so much out of you. You feel like you can't do anything right, you can't please them.

Then, on the other side, there are parents who have no expectations, and that's just even worse. You believe that you can't do it and you think that even if you did, they wouldn't realize it either way.

As I've stated and hinted at before, we need a good middle ground. We need those parents who expect good things but accept that you are trying your best. 

Thing is, we are our parents' prodigy. We are what they kind of, mold us into. I know, it doesn't sound cool and we will all go "No! I'm nothing like them, I'm not going to follow what they want me to be!" Maybe you're right. 

Oh, but what if you're wrong?

Nope, I'm not saying that you have no will of your own, but our mannerisms, and most of our behaviors and a lot of our perceptions and even some of our interests stem from our parents. We have this burning need (most of us at least) to impress these people. We all want their love and approval, and when we get it, we go much further. 

That means, we care about getting good grades. Not because we are scared of our parents, but we strive for our future.

That means, we want to help out, do good things and be successful  but not because your pushed too far, only because you were nudged and found it in yourself to care about it on your own.

Basically, parents need to drop some expectations and just expect that their child does their personal best. Us rebellious teenagers need to grow up and meet our own expectations!

Rebellion turns to Conformity

Teenagers rebel, it is a way of life.

It is every parents worst nightmare. You can always hear them saying "They're in that phase." Or "S/He's a teenager." and just like that, the rebellious behavior is written off.

Not to say that teenagers, at the age we are, don't just want to try and test everything. That would be the cause of our so-called rebellion. However, a lot of rebellion has to do with parenting. 

OH NO. Oh, yeah. I said it. I just called the parents out. 

Here is the deal, and I see it everyday. These kids with parents who aren't trying hard enough or are trying way too hard are the ones rebelling usually. I'll even use an example, my friend misses school constantly, does all sorts of socially unacceptable things and even personally detrimental things. The point is that his mother doesn't really care, she is lax with him and him being the oldest of his siblings, rather than act responsibly he acts out to try and force his mother to do so. Granted, this is my opinion, but it remains true in other situations too. Then I have my parents or some of my friends parents who did a wonderful job, and we are generally not as rebellious. We went easy on our parents. We can only hope that will be paid back to us with our kids. 

When the parents do good, the kids do good. Go figure.