Family Ties (Us Down?)

Let's sit around the table, eat a good old fashioned dinner, no electronics, no distractions and let's talk. Shall we?

I know, I know, this doesn't happen often in families anymore, and what a shame that is.

We are too busy with our cell phones, laptops, TVs, Netflix, music, video games, et cetera to care about a silly dinner with our family where you can have none of those modern distractions. Don't get me wrong, I love all of those things and being the teenager I am, I doubt I could live without those for a long amount of time. However, I also love to - once in awhile - sit down and just talk to my family, and participate in honest conversation with them. It gives me a sense of awareness for what they are going through and I firmly believe that when we are able to do this, we really become closer to each other than we were before. My family and I usually live in a pretty good silence, all of us in our own places but every once in awhile, we break free of that and after our dinner we often are more amiable towards each other. We will often then watch a movie together, or play a game and we are content with each other for days. It wears off for a while and we get irritable with our family members, then we have another nice dinner, we socialize and we are once again alright for a while. It isn’t just dinner though, it’s movies together, games together, working together, and overall spending time together. It is parenting in such a way that the kids are not ashamed to be near their parents. If we had a better family life and no longer allowed our family ties to dematerialize then maybe our world would be better off.

In this blog, I am going to explore a few different angles of family . Things such as:

• Effects on teenage rebellion
• Effects on education and willingness to participate in other activities
• Effects on parenting styles and effectiveness
• Demoralization of family
• Deterioration of family

Single parent families are everywhere, the divorce rates are astounding and kids everywhere are being torn apart by their lack of parental figures The divorce rates are about half of what the marriage rates are in a fraction of 3, 400/6,800. That added to stepparents and extended family(such as step siblings) things tend to go a bit awry. People get rebellious, ignored, scorned, bullied and all sorts of things. Not always, of course, however it happens and that is the issue. Kids need parents and love.

It isn't that they can’t survive without both parents, gay couples and single parents can raise completely normal and successful children, the problem is in the emotional proximity. Their ability to relate to, and understand their child is important, yet this approach is vastly under appreciated. Sometimes, the single parents are even better than both parents due to the fact that if parents are together just for the child and it is a tense and unloving atmosphere, it is more detrimental to the child’s development. How close you are, and not in a suffocating way, to your child makes a huge difference on their behavior This is why some single parents and gay parents are more effective, because they create closer ties with the child in question and that produces better results. If you show them that they are loved and that you genuinely care about them, they will do almost anything for you. If you are too lax, in other words a permissive parent, then they will stretch the rules in a hope that you will care enough to give them boundaries, whereas very strict parents, also known as authoritarian, keep the child on such a tight leash that it often prompts rebellion. In my opinion, the middle grounds is the best way to go without any casualties.

In the next few posts I will explore what was earlier stated and provide some in-depth information. It is imperative that we keep families strong, it might save lives, marriages and personal happiness. Obviously, it doesn’t always work, but what if by starting off with a good family we all learn to wait until we also have something good to pass on to our next generation?

Until next time guys!

Curiously,

Fyredancer911 ♥

Color blind? No, that's not it...

    Color is amazingly important. Not only is our society and whole market based on specific color schemes, but our brains register certain colors ass associated with certain attributes. We all do it, except maybe when we are trying to prove the system wrong. Let me go into a bit of detail. I will explain a couple colors and give a couple of examples. For the record, many of these were pointed out to me by one of my favorite teachers, Mrs. Grant. She teaches psychology at my school and feel the need to give her credit for much of this information and much of my understanding.
    Take the color blue for example - it represents cleanliness. Think back to your last water bottle, I'm almost positive it had some blue on it. Think on it, and do so honestly - if it had a yellow label, would you REALLY drink that water? So now think of your house cleaners - especially the window cleaner. It's blue isn't it? Funny thing about that is it is dye put into the mixture, made specifically to catch your eye and make you think that it will be cleaner than anything else because it is blue. Beautiful sales technique, it is how you make the money. 
    Next, we have the beautiful color of White. Okay, admittedly not a 'real' color - it is technically a shade of a color. That said, it means purity, piety, simplicity. Alright, so maybe it also means cheapness as well. As a sales technique, many of the off brand will have a lot of white. This is because when you see it, you will automatically understand that it is cheaper. The simplicity will make you understand it is not a big name brand. Also used when representing beings such as angels. White is used in many logos for charities, to emphasize their intentions.
    Let's move to an energetic color, shall we? Red! Hah, well it represents pure energy, love, passion, desire, anger, danger. . . What a color, right?! Another AMAZING fact? It makes your metabolism work faster and increases your heart rate. So guess what geniuses use this? Think of your dive home, pass up a McDonalds? It has red everywhere! This is because they KNOW what that color does to you, and they KNOW it makes you want to eat there. Many restaurants will have a lot of red, while blue has the opposite effect so they will stay away from that color. Oh, now I have you thinking, do I? 
    Let me finish off this post with the color black. Such mixed signals, it so often represents death and evil. It also represents formality and grace and elegance and even beauty. Ironic, right? Think on it, the Black Death? Nothing was black about it, actually, I believe it was quite purple. Not only that, but you wear black to mourn death. Black is the color the bad guy wears in the movies, he rides a black horse... See a pattern? Yet, a black-tie affair screams of formality and beauty and elegance. Black roses represent mystery and suspense. Black is in some culture's thought of as rebirth even. Black has such differing meanings, but no it is not all bad. 
    There are plenty of other colors, but that is all the energy I have tonight. I will continue at some other time with less know colors. Possibly like purple is royalty and yellow is busy. I hope you enjoyed, and please share your thoughts with me.


Curiously,
    FyreDancer911